Who is the one person you constantly fight and tease for no reason; the one person with whom you can be completely yourself without fear of being judged; the one person who will always have your back; this person over whom you are so possessive that you will not allow anyone to hurt or scold them, not even your own parents! Yes, we're talking about your darling sister.
The relationship between a brother and a sister cannot be expressed in words. And there is no other emotion as contradictory as the one you experience when your sister's marriage date approaches. Nobody ever seems good enough for her. So, how can you discover a good match for her amid these unsatisfactory prospects?
Saurabh Goswami, Founder and Director of Ultra Rich Weddings Ltd., has a few tips based on his own extensive experience of placating many such protective brothers -
1. Define the Basic Criteria Clearly
This can only be done after detailed discussions with parents and your sister - both together and separately. These basic criteria should include acceptable height and age ranges, location, community, educational background, and profession.
2. Financial Background is Important
It might seem discriminatory to judge a boy by his annual earnings, but in case of an arranged marriage, it's important that you send your sister in an environment which is at least equal to, if not better, than what she is used to since her childhood.
3. Check the Family Background Thoroughly
Your sister is going into a whole new family, even if the boy is staying nuclear. She will be required to maintain these relationships throughout her life. Once talks reach a more serious level, it is very important that she feel comfortable with them.
4. Don't Judge
At the risk of sounding repetitive, we understand that no one is ever going to be good enough for your sister. This does not mean that you reject every prospect on petty excuses. Maybe your connection has informed you that this guy was a regular Don Juan in his college. But so were you and infact all your friends! People change, they mature. Keep an open mind while meeting the guys and their families.
5. Choosing the Right Matrimony
Do not be a penny pincher in the searching phase. Go for trusted matrimonies only, where they provide personally verification profiles. Give priority to those matrimonies who give priority to confidentiality. Your sister's bio data should not roam amongst people like a newspaper. Further, go for those matrimonial companies that provide personalized services. They are well qualified to understand your family requirements and suggests matches accordingly.
6. It's Your 'Sister' Who's Getting Married
Always remember that you can only give suggestions. It's ultimately her decision. Respect that, unless you have a serious case against the guy. Whomsoever she chooses, it's your duty as a brother to support and boost her choice.
In brief, finding a perfect match for your sister is a process that demands patience, understanding, and open-mindedness. By following these suggestions, you may help your sister find a spouse who will cherish and respect her, and she can start her new life with love and happiness. Remember that it is more than simply finding a match; it is also about finding a family for your sister.